The stigma on people who are of marriageable age and are not married can be so frustrating and annoying that it can push one to do what one is not ready for by getting married without being ready. Attaining a marriage age and having a perfect partner does not mean that you are ready to get married and make that life changing commitment, even though marriage is an important part of everyone’s life it doesn’t mean one should rush into it without been fully prepared and know what your true emotions are which is why the rate of divorce in the country is now very alarming.
Here are some signs to show you are not ready for marriage no matter what other people says.
You are getting married because all your friends are married: “All your friends are either getting engaged or entering into serious relationships, so you think you should also do the same and get married so that you aren’t left out, marriage isn’t a competition, and until and unless you are absolutely sure you want to accept the challenges that come along with matrimonial bliss, don’t even think of getting married”. “Nigerian parents are known to pressurise their kids into marriage once they reach a certain age and things turn worse when all of your friends are married, as your parents start comparing you with your friends, if you are sceptical or feel unsure about your ability to cope up with marital responsibilities, talk to your loved ones about it instead of blindly jumping off the cliff”.
Your partner is the only one who makes plans: “If your partner is the only one who is all excited for the wedding and you aren’t helping him/her in their endeavour to make the wedding a memorable occasion, you need to re-think about your marriage, probably you are not being honest with yourself and subconsciously you are still afraid to get married, you must ask yourself why you are getting married, listen to the messages your mind is sending and ponder over your decision”.
You avoid thinking about your married life: “If thinking about your married life gives you goosebumps, whenever your fiancé/fiancée is talking about his/her expectations regarding how you both will handle children, s3x, money or divide tasks, you tend to change the topic and focus on the present instead and if thinking about your married life fills you with dread and trepidation instead of excitement, it’s high time you get honest with yourself and your fiancé/fiancée about your true feelings”.
You think marriage will mark the end of your current life: “Ask yourself at what cost are you entering into this marriage? evaluate the pros and cons of your relationship, will your marriage be too demanding and leave you emotionally bankrupt or will it beautifully merge two lives together? talk to your partner about your expectations and personal goals and remember, getting married doesn’t mean abandoning dreams”.
So guys, if you find yourself nodding to the above-listed signs then it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you but you are not ready for marriage. Remember marriage is not a child’s play; so, be sure you marry someone only if you are 100% sure about them and about yourself.